Emotional dependence in a relationship (codependency): how to break free from unhealthy dependence

In a healthy relationship, love strengthens and supports. Every close relationship carries a certain amount of symbiotic elements – mutual belonging, sharing and dependence. However, in order for the relationship to remain balanced, it is important that there is also enough space for the independence of both partners. Sometimes a relationship can turn into an unhealthy bond, where one person literally “hangs” on the other emotionally. Emotional dependence in a relationship , also known as codependency or codependency , means that a person subordinates their life to their partner to the point that they lose their own identity and independence. This condition does not only arise alongside a partner with an addiction or a serious problem – it can develop in any relationship where one partner has an extreme fear of loneliness and feels that they cannot be happy without the other.

How to recognize emotional addiction

An emotionally dependent person often suffers from low self-esteem and a constant need for reassurance from their partner. Typical signs that a relationship is heading towards unhealthy dependency may include:

• Fear of abandonment – excessive anxiety about being abandoned by my partner, whether the fear is real or not
• Sacrificing one's own needs - the person in question puts their hobbies, friends, or career on the back burner to please their partner
• Tolerating inappropriate behavior – for example, excusing your partner’s outbursts, lies, or infidelity out of fear that they will be left alone if they leave
• Feeling like I am nothing without my partner – loss of self-confidence and identity, all self-worth is derived from the relationship
• Inability to be alone – the person avoids any independence, even short-term separation causes anxiety or panic

Such a toxic relationship may seem solid to those around it – the addicted partner will “never leave” the other. In reality, however, both suffer. One is suffocated by the love that has become a bond, while the other may feel an enormous responsibility and pressure. Emotional dependence often stems from deep insecurity and fear of rejection, which may have roots in childhood or previous experiences.

The psychological effects of unhealthy addiction

Life in an emotionally dependent relationship can be exhausting. The dependent partner lives in constant fear and uncertainty, which can lead to chronic anxiety or depressive states. Daily functioning is adjusted to the moods and wishes of the other - the dependent partner may neglect their health, hobbies and other relationships. Social isolation often occurs, when the world shrinks to just the partner and the relationship. If the relationship is unstable or full of conflicts, the emotionally dependent individual tolerates it much more poorly, because they see this as a threat to their life value. Long-term codependency can result in burnout , physical health problems (e.g. stomach problems from stress) or, in extreme cases, even attempts at self-harm if a breakup is imminent.

On the other hand, the partner on whom the addiction is directed may feel overwhelmed and frustrated . He or she may also suffer from feelings of guilt (“I can’t leave, it would destroy him/her”) and lose respect for the addicted partner. Such a relationship is unbalanced and prevents both of them from personal growth.

How to break free from emotional addiction – treatment and support

The first step to breaking free from an unhealthy addiction is to realize that such a condition exists. It is not easy to admit to yourself: “I am addicted to my partner.” But this already paves the way for change. Treatment for emotional addiction usually includes psychotherapy, which helps to find the causes of this pattern and gradually build healthier attitudes.

At NEO Center, we offer both individual therapy and couples therapy for dealing with emotional addiction. Individual psychotherapy will help the addicted partner rediscover their own worth, increase self-confidence, and learn how to set healthy boundaries . The therapist will provide a safe space to explore feelings of inferiority or fear and teach you how to manage these emotions in a way that doesn't involve clinging to the other person. You will also discuss communication skills together - how to openly communicate your needs and feelings without resorting to blame or manipulation.

If both partners are willing to work on the relationship, couples therapy can also be very beneficial. It will help you understand the dynamics of your relationship – why you fell into it – and how to change it. The therapist will guide you in finding a new balance, where there is room for both of you to be independent , but also for healthy closeness. This way, you can gradually transform a previously unhealthy pattern into a supportive partnership where both of you feel free and together.

How we can help you at NEO Center

NEO Center has experienced professionals who understand the issue of codependency. We offer:

• Individual psychotherapy – regular meetings with a therapist focused on building self-esteem, practicing rejection and setting boundaries, managing anxiety about being alone, and gradually strengthening one's own identity outside of the relationship.

• Couples therapy - a meeting between both partners and a therapist, where you openly name harmful patterns in the relationship and, under the guidance of a professional, replace them with healthier communication and respect.

All our help takes place in an atmosphere of trust and understanding . We assure you that we will not judge your situation. On the contrary, we will help you understand where emotional dependence comes from and gradually teach you to live a full life, where a relationship will be a choice, not a desperate necessity.

There is no shame in asking for help.

If you recognize yourself in the description of emotional dependency, you are not alone. Many people have experienced similarly consuming relationships and have been able to move on from them to greater freedom—often with the help of therapy. There is no shame in seeking professional help ; on the contrary, it shows your determination to improve your life.

You deserve to experience a relationship that will be a source of joy, not suffering. At NEO Center, we will support you on your journey to finding yourself again and gaining healthy independence. Making a change can be difficult, but with empathetic support, you can do it. Don’t stay in the vicious cycle of pain – help is available and together we can find a better way.