Tantrums and inability to control anger

Anger is a normal emotion. It is a natural reaction to injustice, frustration, or a sense of threat. But if we fail to express it in a healthy way, it can build up, explode, or turn against ourselves and others. Tantrums, outbursts of aggression, shouting, or, conversely, suppressed anger that “boils under the surface” – these are all signs that we are not able to handle this powerful emotion.

Anger management is not a matter of upbringing or discipline. It is a skill of “SELF-REGULATION” that can be learned – and that requires a safe space, understanding the context, and working with yourself.

How Unmanaged Anger Manifests

• sudden outbursts of anger, shouting, aggressive gestures or insults,
• feeling like you're "bumping" over something small,
• internal tension, tightness, physical manifestations (e.g. clenched jaw, pounding heart),
• regret for behavior after the seizure, remorse, shame,
• damaging relationships with loved ones or colleagues,
• transferring anger onto oneself – self-criticism, internal outbursts, psychosomatic difficulties.

Repressed anger can be turned against oneself – often manifesting itself in self-destructive behavior such as self-harm, substance abuse, promiscuity, or other forms of attack on one's own body and value. Depression is very often the result of long-term suppressed strong emotions, especially anger that has not had the space to be experienced and processed healthily.

Why do we struggle with anger?

Many people are afraid of anger – because they are told since childhood that “Good girls/boys don’t get angry.” The result is that anger is either suppressed or explodes without control. In both cases, it hurts us and those around us.

Unmanaged anger is often related to:

• long-term stress and overload,
• internal frustration or unfulfilled needs,
• low self-esteem, need to have things under control,
• childhood experiences (e.g. parental role models or punishment for expressing emotions),
• unexpressed sadness, fear, or hurt that turns into anger.

Anger itself is not a problem – it is a natural emotion that protects our boundaries. The problem arises when we are unable to experience and express anger safely. Suppressed anger is behind many difficulties on a somatic and psychological level. Research confirms its connection with psychosomatic problems, autoimmune diseases, and even oncological diagnoses. In the field of psychology, it is often the root cause of depressive states, as mentioned above.

How we can help you at NEO Center

We focus on clients who find themselves at the brink of their potential. Whether it's a long-term workload, exhaustion from caring for others, or internal tension without an apparent cause, we always look for an individual way out of the overload.

Individual therapy

In therapy sessions we will focus on:

• identification of sources of overload,
• understanding one's own needs, boundaries and emotions,
• practicing slowing down and mindfulness,
• searching for a more balanced rhythm of life.

Together we will work to help you better recognize the warning signs of your body and soul, and avoid experiencing exhaustion again in the future.

Techniques for calming and regeneration

Support may also include relaxation methods and bodywork – breathing exercises or gentle movement activities. The goal is to help you:

• slow down,
• feel in touch with your body again,
• restore a sense of security and grounding,
• create a space for relaxation that is truly effective.

Residential treatment as a reboot

If the fatigue is so profound that it interferes with daily functioning, a residential form of therapy may be appropriate. In a quiet environment, away from the daily stress, you will get space for a real pause, support and change of habits. Residential treatment at the NEO Center is a combination of therapeutic work, a supportive regime and care for body and soul - which together form the basis for real recovery.

Anger management as part of mental health care

Anger – like any other emotion – tells us what is good for us and what is not. It is a natural protective system that functions at the level of the first signaling system, and therefore as a physiological reaction of our organism. It is not something “bad” – but an important signal that needs to be understood.

At NEO Center, we teach you to recognize, understand, and use anger as a useful tool for self-regulation. It's not about suppressing anger, but finding a way to experience it safely and in harmony with your body, values, and relationships.